How to talk with your child by heart?
|By: nancylee_06 | Dec 23 2013 | 573 words | 2402 hits|
Children are the future flowers, and many people think that a child's education from the very beginning is very important. As parents, you should always understand the child's situation, and sometimes necessary for proper conversation with the child, also known as talk. How can we talk to children?
What kind of talk is considered to be effective?
How to talk to children
1.Balance your own position.
As parents, when talking with your children, do not feel that you are parents, knowing many things, having rich experience, naturally thinking that they should listen to you. This is a very wrong idea. Whining talking to the child, you two are equal, as long as you put yourself in the same position with your children, can you truly be sincere.
2. Learn to think in children's position
Sometimes, when the child makes a mistake, or has done something bad, as parents, you should calm down to put yourself in his or her position to ponder the situation before talking to your children, just assume that if you were them, how should you wish your mom and dad to talk to you? How would you expect them to say in the way you would be willing to accept the appropriate empathy ... so a lot of things may be easy to be well resolved if you think in this way.
3. Master talking skills
Some parents tend to use a didactic approach to communicate with children when talking with their children. In fact, many children like their parents to tell a story or give some examples, which are more vivid, and better understanding. Therefore, should parents change the communication way? At the same time, parents should be peaceful when talking with your children, do not be angry easily.
4. Make clear the talking purposes
There are more or less some purposes in talking with children. For example, to understand the child's situation, or would like to know the child 's views on some things, the child makes a mistake, a mistake which would like to know the reason ... only with a purpose, or is the solution to the problem is there are a lot of positive talk role.
5. Father or mother to talk?
As parents, there will more or less have some differences about the position in child's hearts. As some topics or things, some children will think only to
speak to father, or only for mother. When a child has this condition, parents must learn to communicate with each other, and then talk to your child appropriate.
6. Do not recommend to use beatings or compare when talking to child
Some parents, when talking to their children, cannot help beating or scolding, which are not very good way to talk, thus causing kids' unwilling to communicate with you, or some rebellious character formation. Of course, it is also not to be promoted that some parents would like to compare the child with other people's children. In the child's growing up, only when comparing with themselves can they realize their shortcomings, and grow better. Blind comparison with others is easy to bring some negative impacts.
7.The healthy growth of children is the most important!
The ultimate goal of talking between parents and children is to hope children's happy and healthy growth. In their growing journey, it's very important for parents to talk with children. Of course, this is not the whole thing! A good family atmosphere, a good guide, a conducive learning environmen are very important! So, do not ignore these things!
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